As an adopted baby grows up, questions will arise. Who is my mother? Why didn't you help my mother keep me? 

Baby adoption - whether international or domestic adoption of babies - it's all fun until "baby" gets old enough to ask questions.  Some adoptive people just squelch the questions immediately, by bursting into tears or admonishing the poor adopted child to "be grateful" she has any "family" at all.  It might be considered mean to say something that to your own child, but it is an incredibly cruel thing to say to a child who already questions whether her own family loved her and simply didn't have the resources to keep her - or merely dumped her.

Sadly, many women around the world live in cultures where they are forced to abandon their baby daughters, or perhaps abandon babies born to them while they are single. 

Baby adoption - it's all fun until "baby" gets old enough to ask questions. 


Related Reading:


Baby Adoption  Korean "babies" (now adult adoptees) speaking out against interracial, intercountry adoption and the use of women in third world countries as baby-production equipment. 

A quote from the website:

"Abduction is the word we like better than adoption. "Adoption" conceals the unequal power between abductors and abductees, and in the abduction industry in general. "

Adoption - "Adoption" viewpoint of an adoptee.  "This website is dedicated to the forgotten side of adoption. The truth that no one wants to hear. It is time for it to be heard."

Baby Adoption  The announcement of a domestic adoption "baby boom" has undoubtedly brought hope to people wanting to adopt an infant. But this announcement begs the question: Where are these babies coming from? Is there a systemic issue to be addressed?


 
 

Amendment VIII to the US Constitution:

"Excessive bail shall not be required, nor excessive fines imposed, nor cruel and unusual punishments inflicted."

A book not to be missed:  Ann Fessler (adoptee) writes about "The Girls Who Went Away : The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption"

"Excessive bail shall not be required, nor excessive fines imposed, nor cruel and unusual punishments inflicted."  Isn't it a bit excessive when someone's own child is taken as the "punishment" for not getting an abortion?  Both mother and child - and probably siblings - are affected by this extreme cruel punishment.

Here's an article you might want to read...

Dear Birthmother - Is Adoption Worth the Grief?

The million-dollar question: What are the causes of the psychological effects of adoption? 

The adoption industry has told everyone adoption is better for children than being raised in their own family, if their mother is single at the time they are born.  Even today there is "Infant Adoption Awareness Training" to try to get more healthy newborn babies for adoption customers.   So it seems odd to say there are psychological effects to this "procedure".  What are the causes of these effects?

1) Child is separated from all of her family.  Often a baby has been separated from her mother at birth or soon after birth.  This separation from her mother causes a tremendous insecurity in the baby that lasts throughout her life.  The mother who was advised only that her child would be "better off" may be completely unaware that her child is hurting. 

2) Child is told the adopting people are her actual family.  The same lie appears on her falsified birth certificate.  There may be other lies on her falsified birth certificate - her place of birth and date of birth might also have been fraudulently altered.

3) Additional lies heaped on the original lie.  For example, one adoptee I know was told "If your mother wanted to know you she would have found you by now."   Imagine being raised by "loving" people who say cruel things to you like that!  (Luckily that girl's mom did manage to find her  while she was still in college.)

4) Spending your life thinking you were unwanted.

5) Finding out you WERE wanted and they all lied to you and made you think you weren't wanted.

6) Finding your mother and she has no concept of what it is like to be adopted ... she still believes the people who told her you'd be "better off".  She bows down and worships the adopting people, the ones who lied to you.

7) Your mother HAS figured out what it is like to be adopted and is devastated and heartbroken.  But she does give you some really great hugs.

You find your father and he doesn't want his wife to know about you.  How REDICULOUS is that?  Does his wife really not know her husband had sex before dating her? 

9) You always wanted a brother and now you discover you had one all along, but he was hidden from you.   Now you know each other, but he really believes the lie that you are not related to him.  So he ignores you. 

I hope this little "causes and effects" diatribe on adoption has helped some pregnant mom or dad wake up...and figure out NOT to listen to the "experts" who tell you to abandon your child so infertile people can use her. 

I also hope some mom or dad will wake up and decide to find their baby and give her a hug. 

Psychological impacts of adoption.

I just saw a website where they were offering women $10,000 for their newborn babies...getting around the law by telling naive, vulnerable moms they will get paid for their child AFTER they surrender to one of "their" agencies...it's despicable how the United States government allows this solicitation and sale of human beings. If they give the moms $10,000 them how the hell much do they charge for the babies?  Do the dads get paid too for making babies for the agencies to sell to adopters?  It's just sick.

Human Life is Precious as Gold for Sale

“Human Life is precious” - that is the message we often hear: “Human Life is precious”. We all know how delightful it is to hear a small child laugh or to look into the trusting eyes of a newborn. And when we look into the eyes of our own son or daughter our joy is even greater. But beyond the intrinsic value of a human being there is an economic value as well. Will there be enough younger workers to keep the social security going? Will there be people to purchase all the manufactured goods and all the “services” and pharmaceuticals? Will there be enough people - with the right skills - to defend our country?

Human Life is precious . However to many entities human life is precious only because of the income that can be realized from a human life - it is the “price tag” that makes human life precious. This is especially true now that so many people are putting wealth and their own interests first and waiting too long to reproduce. Aging, desperate for a baby - and sometimes quite wealthy - some infertile people will pay any sum in order to get a baby “of their own”. Singles and gays also hope to adopt or otherwise obtain an unrelated child. This is great news for adoption businesses and for those businesses who broker the raw materials needed to create a baby - including human eggs, human sperm and now even frozen human embryos.

Human life may be considered “precious” but any real respect for human life has gone completely down the drain. Human life is no longer intrinsically precious.. “It” is precious based on “it’s” DNA, looks, health and potential. “It’s” ancestors are usually not even mentioned or if ancestors do happen to be mentioned they are referred to in dehumanizing terms as “genetic parent”, “birthmother” or “birth family health history”. In an attempt to get more raw materials to make babies and more babies for adoption, the very real human life from which the “desired life” springs is demoted to the lowest status possible, the status of a breeder of babies for the wealthy.

Many “Christian” people insist upon decimating families that are not of the “family unit” type. They rationalize that forced adoption is better than forced abortion - the only two “choices” they are willing to consider for families with single parents. For males, offering only these two “choices” is ideal - because it means that males need not concern themselves with either pregnancy prevention or with taking responsibility for their own child if they are not married to their child’s mother.

Churches love to promote the phrase “human life is precious” - but unfortunately it seems even for churches, the economic value of human life trumps the intrinsic value of human life. It’s hard to believe that the “experts” are not aware of the harm they cause mothers and their children when they are separated for adoption. For churches, providing “adoption services” is a great “fund-raiser”. “Adoption services” nets them plenty of donations (for this “charitable” work) and of course the church adoption agencies charge fees for “counseling” services designed to get more babies for their real clients, the adopters.

They say "things have changed" - but with adoption things have not changed except to become more devious and competitive.

Rather than churches helping the poor, churches remove the healthy, desirable babies of the “poor” (often naïve Christian college students) and sell the babies as indulgences to those whose marriages are not “blessed by God”. In earlier centuries, when people could not reproduce their marriages were annulled. Infertility is not a measure of “goodness”. Infertility may be the result of STDs, overweight, environmental toxins, bad habits like drinking or smoking, drug use or may result from an infection following an abortion. For males, even holding a laptop on their lap can lead to increased body temperature and infertility. Yet, churches seek to “save” these marriages through the sale of human life.

And because churches have been promoting adoption and selling human life for so long now, how can people comprehend that making even more “artificial orphans” through adoption or reproductive technologies will cause suffering? It’s not a desirable thing to be an orphan, cut off from family. Do Americans really want to fund “Embryo Adoption Awareness Training” making it so that clinics will be encouraged to make more “spare” embryos in order to offer them for sale? Do United States citizens want “reproductive tourism” to the United States which is known for allowing it’s citizens to be used as incubators and as the source of raw materials to make babies?

Human life used to be considered more precious than gold but now Human Life - is only precious as gold for sale.  

L. Frisch 

http://www.motherhelp.info/adoption_business.htm

They say a pregnant woman is "selfish" if she won't "give up" her baby for adoption...who's kidding who?

Today I looked to see what search terms people typed in when surfing the web.  I have already noticed quite a few people searching for "illegal adoption" or "adoption brokers".  And today I saw "Want a baby without the adoption process." 

Now why might someone "want a baby without the adoption process"?  The "adoption process" is set up to protect people who pay good money to get babies.  The adoption process is intended to prevent future heartache and ugly public wrangling with true parents over a child that was not a true orphan. 

As far as I know, the "adoption process" has never prevented anyone from getting a baby.  Not long ago in the news were some drug dealers  in Utah who had adopted ("bought") a cute litttle baby imported from Chicago.   There are people on the web bragging that they had serious mental illnesses  and still got a baby.  And have you ever wondered where the Satanists that sacifice human infants get babies to use?

The "adoption process" does nothing to protect vulnerable babies or to help their true families.  Many naive Christian parents and grandparents fall prey to "professionals" and adoption recruiters whose job is to "make dreams come true" for the baby-buyers.  A great many single parents would keep their babies if they just had a little assistance or even knew the truth about how separation from family and adoption might affect their child for life.

Most parents learn more about the baby-sitter that will take care of their baby for a few hours than the single, pregnant mother is permitted to know - via the "adoption process" - about the people who want to take off with her child  for life.   Or perhaps for death - if the child is intended for use in satanic sacrifice.

When a woman is pregnant - and suffering from morning sickness and other effects of pregnancy -she may begin to question her abilities as a mother.  This is true, even if she has successfully cared for many babies and small children.  And when people begin to suggest that she "consider all her options" and go for pregnancy "counseling" then it makes the mother feel even more worthless.

To her baby, a mother is not worthless.  To her baby her mother is her entire world, the one who is most supposed to be there for her. 

Sadly, thanks to the NCFA, we now have federally-funded "Infant Adoption Awareness Training", adoption advertising and adoption pamplets all aimed at pushing adoption on women who plan to give birth.   It is the job of the "adoption specialists" who  "counsel" pregnant women to get babies for the NCFA adoption businesses'  customers.  At "Infant Adoption Awareness Training", youth group leaders, health professionals, teachers and others are being trained to "THINK ADOPTION FIRST" whenever they see a pregnant woman who is feeling down.

If Adoption Counseling were done by people who really cared, what might the counseling be like?

Adoption and Loss - The Hidden Grief provides a good beginning for counseling mothers who lost their own sons and daughters to adoption - or for helping pregnant women understand the long-term effects of the loss of your own precious baby. 

If Adoption Pamplets were written by real women - real mothers - then how would they read? 

Considering Adoption - Things I Wish I Had Known provides a good beginning for counseling a woman who is pregnant and wants honest information.