As an adopted baby grows up, questions will arise. Who is my mother? Why didn't you help my mother keep me? 

Baby adoption - whether international or domestic adoption of babies - it's all fun until "baby" gets old enough to ask questions.  Some adoptive people just squelch the questions immediately, by bursting into tears or admonishing the poor adopted child to "be grateful" she has any "family" at all.  It might be considered mean to say something that to your own child, but it is an incredibly cruel thing to say to a child who already questions whether her own family loved her and simply didn't have the resources to keep her - or merely dumped her.

Sadly, many women around the world live in cultures where they are forced to abandon their baby daughters, or perhaps abandon babies born to them while they are single. 

Baby adoption - it's all fun until "baby" gets old enough to ask questions. 


Related Reading:


Baby Adoption  Korean "babies" (now adult adoptees) speaking out against interracial, intercountry adoption and the use of women in third world countries as baby-production equipment. 

A quote from the website:

"Abduction is the word we like better than adoption. "Adoption" conceals the unequal power between abductors and abductees, and in the abduction industry in general. "

Adoption - "Adoption" viewpoint of an adoptee.  "This website is dedicated to the forgotten side of adoption. The truth that no one wants to hear. It is time for it to be heard."

Baby Adoption  The announcement of a domestic adoption "baby boom" has undoubtedly brought hope to people wanting to adopt an infant. But this announcement begs the question: Where are these babies coming from? Is there a systemic issue to be addressed?


 
 

You linked to an open adoption article. It has been over three years and we still send info back to our child's birth family. We exchange email with four people in the family and they have access to our family website. We exchange cards and gifts with everyone, and we have visits and calls with some people.

Not all of us are out there buying children. We paid nothing to adopt - maybe $200 for documents. We adopted through a non-profit agency that I guarantee lost money on our adoption based on the amount of their resources we used. They have a free staff counselor, tons of classes and workshops, and lots of other help.

There are good adoptive situations.

(yes this is the same person posting before)

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I truly feel sorry for you that you have to go through life with such a negative attitude. You spend your time on this blog posting all this ant-adoption information generalizing as you go. Do you ever stop to consider that there are people out there who aren't "buying babies" but rather stepping up to the plate to be a parent to a child who doesn't have any. Ask yourself this...how many children are sitting in the foster care system waiting to be adopted because their biological parents priorities were focused on something else besides being a parent. How can you blame society or the people willing to raise these kids as their own for the choices that the natural parents have made. Sure they can attend re-hab, parenting assitance courses ect. but you can only help someone who wants to be helped. Maybe the information that you post on this blog contributes to the many mothers who leave their babies for dead in garbage cans, dumpsters or in a box on the curb.

I agree! I think of adoption parents as incredibly noble people who are taking on the responsibilities that biological parents either cannot manage or simply do not want them. There are always two sides to a story, you might want to look into the other side before you criticize.