When a woman is pregnant - and suffering from morning sickness and other effects of pregnancy -she may begin to question her abilities as a mother.  This is true, even if she has successfully cared for many babies and small children.  And when people begin to suggest that she "consider all her options" and go for pregnancy "counseling" then it makes the mother feel even more worthless.

To her baby, a mother is not worthless.  To her baby her mother is her entire world, the one who is most supposed to be there for her. 

Sadly, thanks to the NCFA, we now have federally-funded "Infant Adoption Awareness Training", adoption advertising and adoption pamplets all aimed at pushing adoption on women who plan to give birth.   It is the job of the "adoption specialists" who  "counsel" pregnant women to get babies for the NCFA adoption businesses'  customers.  At "Infant Adoption Awareness Training", youth group leaders, health professionals, teachers and others are being trained to "THINK ADOPTION FIRST" whenever they see a pregnant woman who is feeling down.

If Adoption Counseling were done by people who really cared, what might the counseling be like?

Adoption and Loss - The Hidden Grief provides a good beginning for counseling mothers who lost their own sons and daughters to adoption - or for helping pregnant women understand the long-term effects of the loss of your own precious baby. 

If Adoption Pamplets were written by real women - real mothers - then how would they read? 

Considering Adoption - Things I Wish I Had Known provides a good beginning for counseling a woman who is pregnant and wants honest information.